Have you ever walked into a room full of strangers and felt self conscious?  Everyone seems to be talking to someone and you’re just standing there.  How do you break into the conversation and begin to meet people?

That feeling of “where do I begin” overwhelms all of us at one time or another which is why you want to make it easy for your rich man to approach you.

eyesEye Contact

Develop a knack for eye contact. Choose a man that you want to meet.  Focus on him until he notices.  You can blink (it would be creepy if you didn’t) but do not break eye contact until he does.  You may find this difficult at first, but it will get easier with practice.  While he’s looking at you, smile. If he doesn’t approach you after that, he’s not interested.  Move on.

Smile, smile, smile

It is much easier to approach someone who is smiling than someone who is not. Learn to smile until your cheeks fall off.  It connotes openness, friendliness and warmth. Of course, smiling will often get you the attention of men you are not interested in, so learn to reject with a smile as well. smile1

It is easier on the ego when someone says with a smile, “Thank you, but I’m not interested.” A rejection with attitude and no smile offends.  You don’t want to offend people, you just want them to go away.

Be mindful that men often watch a woman for a while before they will approach her.  If you are seen being rude, they may check you off their list even before you get on it.

Introduce Yourself

The easiest way to meet people is also the hardest.  Simply introduce yourself to the people around you.  When you’re in  a crowd of strangers, turn to the person on either side of you, hold out your hand and say, “Hi, my name is…” It’s so simple, yet many people find it difficult to do. Practice this several times a night.  You’ll be surprised how friendly people can be once you make the overture. And of course, the more people you meet, the more opportunities you have to meet the right man.

Make Interesting Conversation

You need to be able to talk to people, so have something interesting to say. Gather in the back of your mind little bits of  information to share with others, or ask questions that will spark interesting conversation.

Scour newspapers, magazines, or the internet for interesting facts.  Don’t leave home for a social event without at least one item of interest in mind. Of course, if you are shy and don’t like being center stage, you can always get people to talk about themselves.  For example, “What’s the best place you’ve ever been to?” or “Have you read any interesting books lately?” or “What do you like to do when you’re not working?”

If making conversation is difficult for you, learn how.  There are plenty of books on the subject.

Ask Him to Dancedance1

Many men feel self conscious when dancing.  They don’t like to look like a fool. But most men will not turn down a slow dance with a pretty woman.

Look for a man that you’d like to meet.  Go up to him, introduce yourself, and ask him to dance. If the music is not too loud, make conversation and get to know him.

Once the dance is over, thank him, and go back to your friends. If he’s interested in continuing your conversation, he’ll follow you.  Lucky you if you’re interested in him, too.

But if you’re no longer interested, politely tell him that you appreciated the dance, but you don’t want to pursue anything further.  Of course, if he doesn’t make a move after dancing with you, he’s obviously not interested. Don’t waste your time, move on to someone else.

Hand Him Your Business Card
If you’ve met someone you want to see again, hand him your business card or personal card* and walk away.  Now it’s their turn to make the next move.  If he’s interested, he’ll call.  If not, move on.

*If you don’t want to give out your personal information, use a business card, but have on hand a few personal cards that list your cell phone number and/or email address for those men you have been introduced to by friends who can vouch for the guy. Never give your address or home phone numbers to strangers.

Know When to Leave

Don’t waste your time chasing men who don’t want you and don’t pursue men after your initial contact. You have signaled your interest. The chase is part of what keeps them interested. If you are too available, there is no challenge, and men lose their excitement. Remember that you want to make it easy for them to approach you, but you don’t want to be perceived as “easy”.

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